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R-Drive Personality Trait Descriptions
| Narcissism Unconventionality Empiricism Vitality Othercentricism |
Independence Integrity Intellect Stoicism Orderliness |
Hedonism Dynamism Activity Romanticism |
Vitality
| making progress in life, happy, knows who they are, open about who they are, doesn't hide who they are, autonomous, optimistic, realistic, finds being who they are rewarding, knows what they are doing with their life, thriving, not prone to depression, takes initiative, feels comfortable with who they are, emotionally controlled, trusts their own judgment, not stressed, radiates joy, thinks they are living in the best part of their life right now, motivated, has close friends, athletic, good sense of right and wrong, confident, hard working, comfortable expressing romantic interest, knows how to enjoy themself, capable of trust, is capable of getting over social or romantic rejection, feels that their life belongs to them, seeks pleasure, true to self at all costs, not prone to complaining, independent, gregarious, prefers to participate fully rather than view life from the sidelines, not prone to anger, energetic, creative, trusts others, not easily confused, considered attractive by others, feels lucky much of the time, self reliant, true to their word, not a private person, not superficial, doesn't hide their failures from others, more calm than worrying, makes friends easily, good at taking advice, team player, has a lot of fun, not prone to addiction, honest, rational, respects customs (more info on this type) |
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*for a low score assume the opposite of the above. the descriptions listed here are made up of personality items. people who scored high on this type scored higher on the above items compared to the average. (more info) |
High Vitality Scorers
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I scored highly on Vitality drive. This is because I specifically worked to know who I am, to change what I perceived to be either flaws that negatively affected my life or created workarounds, and maximized the good points and natural abilities -- with visible positive result. Self-knowledge and transformation is difficult to obtain without much pain and effort, not to mention many hit-or-miss attempts as well as successes. I am therefore very aware of the cost and therefore value of this journey that is my life. There is much to change and improve still, and life will deal many blows as well as give many more gifts. Self-knowledge gives me the confidence that I have the inner resources to deal with whatever may come, that I can acquire the necessary resources and create the opportunities to carry me through. FWIW, I am not religious or New Age mystical; perhaps more zen in a philosophical sense. My background is in psychology and law. Childhood trauma (not particularly traumatic if compared on the bell curve, but deeply affecting to me) caused me to feel very alienated from "normal" people for well into my twenties, and I have spent much time and brain power to try to understand "them", to "fit in" ... until one realizes that we are all on the same journey, face the same uncertainties and self-doubts, and seek each in our own way to be happy and fulfilled. Once I understood this, there is very little to fear on a day-to-day basis, and certainly no need to hide my true self so long as I always treat others with respect and good manners. In my attempts to "fit in", I have acquired excellent social skills, ability to read people, and create rapport. I am intelligent, educated, well-read, well-spoken, attractive and well-dressed, and generally emotionally stable so that I can support others in their times of need. I must emphasize my belief that these are all SKILLS, obtainable by everyone so long as they see the need. I am also realistically optimistic and able to see humor in everything. I like who I am very much. I am very comfortable with who I am. It took me many years to get to this point. I noticed I scored high in the dynamism also. I very much live for change. Even my career choice is because every day is different. Having a good sense of who am I makes me feel happy because I know that others acknowledge, accept and love for who I am, maybe because when I am dealing with others I really wants them to be happy by making feel that they can trust and depend on me, they can tell anything they wish to talk and make them feel secure in me, and that makes me happy to protect someone that I care, value and love. I feel like I've come to understand who I am, and what makes me happy. The test was right, as I'd like to believe, and I think that it's because I do what I enjoy, which overall makes for a happier person. I think i value myself because I only have one life. The most important thing is to be myself, I can care less if others approve/disprove of me. Do things that make me happy ( as long as it doesn't hurt others). Only I can decide where I go in life, and I absolutely love that decision. I grew up with parents that gave my siblings (8 total) and myself permission and space to express our individuality, they also taught us self respect and the importance of being good to one another and not judging. Early in life I always hated myself. I am constantly improving myself and finding out why I do what I do. If it is bad, I change it. If it is inevitable, I cope with it. If it is good, I improve it. I like who i am and am proud of who i am. I think there are various reasons as to why I'm comfortable with my identity. My parents were a huge part of that, my father is a self-absorbed idiot and my mother was a naive saint who spent seventeen years trying to change him... and together, in a really messed up sort of way, they produced my confidence. I spent years watching them be unhappy and decided that's not what I wanted. I've spent about four years getting to know myself, the things I can't change, the ones that I can, and then I decided what I wanted in life and what I needed to do to get there. I set goals and then I worked for them. That's really the only way to explain how I got here. It is true that knowing who I am makes me happy and that I am happy with myself (100% according to this test). You are the most important part of your life so it's worth exploring your persona. To try to answer why it is this makes me happy I must say that I accept who I am, I treat myself with love, though not in a narcissistic manner. But it wasn't always this way and it has been a journey. Also, it is very important that we realize that we may never fully know who we are because we live in our own heads and not in everyone elses so, there isn't a clear rounded up picture of who it is we are. So don't try too hard either. I wake up each morning grateful that I'm here and I go on with life knowing there really isn't much at all I can understand, textbook knowledge aside. But I am proud of myself for having comprehended this much for now. I enjoy the person that I am because I love the life I live. I have learned a lot in my past to make me the person I am today, and I am in love with the love of my life and wouldn't rather be anywhere else in my life. I feel like it is going down the right path and I wouldn't change a thing. I am adopted, and have grown up with parents who have raised me to believe that I can be anything I want to be. I realized when I was young that power is an idea, and can be molded out of thin air from the likes of confidence, self motivated drive, and passionate curiosity. My personality is distinct and whole because I consciously evolve every minute of every day into the person I choose to be, the person who results from the mass of my actions. I love being who I am because who I am makes me happy, the ones who love me happy, and the ones I'm attracted to attracted to me. I enjoy being who I am, being the example of what a person can be should they simple exist to be happy with themselves and create their bodies, their environments, and their minds to be exactly as they see themselves as being. I'm happy and enjoy being who I am because it helps me figure out the things I want to do in life and gives me direction in life. I am almost never bored because I always know what I want or have to do. It also helps me identify how I can make a change in the world. I am terrified of the idea of not knowing who I am and simply following society's standards, because from what I see in other people, it leads to things they regret in the future. I think it's because I've mostly had positive experiences reinforcing a sense of self in terms of identity definition. In my case it's successes in life in general that reinforce the opinion of myself as someone who is really able to adapt to the environment for survival, meaning I have a generally positive opinion of myself because my experiences reinforce that (also some empiricism here?). Also, I had a very supporting family when I was a kid even though the environment outside family may not have always been favorable for me. I think that such a stable emotional background also helps. let me also add that if the above seemed overly positive, I don't mean I'm perfect or anything but that's fine, nobody ever forced me to try and be perfect. I am consciously positive, I look for the blessing in any situation, and work on introspection and self improvement. This makes life better, and makes me enjoy who I am more. I believe at this point in my life the self realization is fixed. And the significant others' influence has somewhat been replaced with a my own personal barometer; I am now my own validation as I continue to achieve my personal ambitions. Furthermore, I believe that the positive reinforcement poured into to me as a youth was critical to my identity development. I equate it to the learning window that children have to learn foreign languages and other things; the early exposure and consistency usually allows for that child to grasp those things and take it with them throughout life. So because I had the benefit of consistent early positive reinforcement, when it became less frequent in my life, I was still able to move forward even when significant others or their influence weren't around. I think a good sense of self is hard to come by and usually the result of struggle in life. In answer to your question I suppose I am this way because I learned to be this way. I am 42 and have decided I would rather be happy with who I am than fight with myself to be someone else. In other words "what's the fuss". Are there some things I would like to do better? Sure. I am working on improving my general mental and physical health but I am not getting too worked up about it. Life will work out one way or another. I enjoy who I am and have a good sense of who I am, maybe because I experienced a lot of strong emotional situations in my life, helping me to have a better understanding of myself , and enjoying simply life as it is. And as I simply enjoy life, I also simply enjoy or I should say accept, who I am, with my strengths and weakness, with my qualities and flaws. I think scoring highly on the Vitality drive portion of this test, is a reflection of many years of varying degrees of emoting. I grew up as a preacher's daughter in a very small farming community which left little room for questioning who I am or what I want. Subsequently, when I left for college I went off the deep end with no boundaries strictly enforced. I married young and had 2 children by the time I was 27. Divorced ten years later. I have explored so many different highs and lows, and ultimately at 44, feel completely settled in my skin. The only thing I would work on is my weight (for health issues alone, as I have not felt being overweight as a 'negative' impact in my life) and continuing to learn and evolve my mind and heart. I have stopped being angry and I have stopped judging others. I have learned that being intolerant of intolerance is hypocritical. So I work on myself, my space, and my relationships. and I am happier than I have ever been. Mostly, I try not to stress about the things that I can't change and worry more about the things that I can't. I like to be a human tree - take negativity in like carbon dioxide and push positivity out like oxygen. You have to wake up and think or say one good thing about yourself every day. My parents always stressed the fact that I should be comfortable with who I am, and if that was not the case that I have full power over myself and anything I don't like about myself. Being a good person was always greatly stressed, and because of their support, I have become the person I am today. Self reflection is a big part of their lives, especially for my father, and embracing change and striving to be the best person you can be was his goal, not necessarily physically but morally and being a good person in general. I do this as well, and try to consider how I affect other people and how I can try to be a better person. We are here, and should try to make the best of it. Every experience is a learning opportunity, and I will be happy with where I am and who I am, or I will make a change. |
Low Vitality Scorers
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I feel I scored lowly on Vitality because I have a constantly shifting personality that is hard for me to nail down. I also realize a lot of my faults but do little to change them. I derive pleasure from pleasing people but this is often in competition with my desire to do what I want, whatever the consequence. This conflict ends up causing a lot of self hatred. I wish to be someone different from myself. I have an inability to see any worth in myself. I depreciate my successes and chastise myself for feeling worthy or competent and even more so when I feel happy. I also blow mistakes out of proportion and will never let myself live them down. I will sometimes punish myself for years over one mistake insulting myself in my mind I would do it for a lifetime if it were not for my eventually forgetting the mistake. However if the memory returns I will feel almost a physical pain and will cringe and shutter at the thought. I will often (if I'm alone) yell things like "I'm stupid" or "you fucking idiot" referring to myself. These outbursts are almost always involuntary as though I feel I have to say them. When I'm around people and a mistake or embarrassment returns in my mind I will suppress the outburst and it will only come out as a even toned "aaaah" or some other suppressed yell or sound but in my mind I am insulting myself. However, in both situations I wince, grimace, or cringe as if in pain and some sort of vocal noise is made both are involuntary and automatic upon remembering a past mistake or embarrassing situation. I know I will probably live like this for the rest of my life. I don't understand who I am. I get bullied. I moved schools. I like who I am, but I annoy myself for being who I am (if that makes sense). I have committed to self harm (numerous times, this is why I consider myself an addict) and I basically feel like a stereotype. Every day it's the same comments. I scored low on the vitality drive. Most likely it is because I act differently around people and it's usually in a bad way; Not in an asshole way, just immature sometimes. I also have a terrible social life, never going out with friends, not having many either and I've never been in a relationship, which at 16, most people I know seem to have. I never do anything spontaneous and the real thing is that if I were to never be seen again, so few people would care and that makes me angry at myself. I dont like who I am because I fail at everything. I was a bright child, never had to work hard to excel, in school at least. The expectations were high, and when I started to struggle, I just said fuck it. I would rather just quit than not do well. Anyway.. I didn't have many friends, I was always a comedian, and I'm funny, but only to myself. So I was just an awkward girl saying random off the wall things. I wasn't into the normal rites of passage, for example learning to drive, because I feared the responsibility or failing at it. So now I'm 25, totally inept, the victim of social anxiety, and a shitty public transportation system. My emotions and why I do the things I do are foreign, they confuse and upset me. I DO enjoy many parts of my self/identity, I believe. However, there are also things which I consciously, overtly dislike. There are also parts of my identity, as it relates to your use of identity in the test, that I regularly have differing feelings on. Sometimes it's as simple as "this aspect of my identity helped me in this situation, therefore I feel good about it" vs. "I feel this aspect of my identity hindered me in this situation, so I dislike it". Of course, our personality traits are in some instances helpful and in some instances unhelpful, so it's relatively natural. However, beyond that somewhat basic, obvious example I can say that when I'm happy, upbeat, generally feeling optimistic, etc. that my view of my identity is more favorable, even if that part of my personality/makeup didn't help make me, in any direct or obvious way, happy. The reverse also holds true, I have a more negative view of my identity when I'm depressed, even if it didn't clearly contribute to those negative feelings. Why is this? I can't say for certain, and my inclination is that it's probably a complex web of different factors, at times some factors possibly contributing more and at other times less. As an aside, it also is to an extent, in my opinion, fairly common to view aspects of oneself more favorably when happy and less so when depressed. Once again, this is surely complex, however the crux of it is, I believe, probably simply due to the way in which people often times are able to look past certain things that might bother them otherwise when they are having fun, are happy, or other pleasant emotions. And likewise the reverse is true in times of depression, when people often times think more cynically and pessimistically and have a tendency to self analyze more. I actually think the results are pretty accurate, and surprised the vitality score is so low. However, I am undergoing a lot of change in my life, and one serious change - a chronic illness that displayed a long time ago - is still being dealt with, and I am only now forced to consider its acceptance. So no, I do not like who I am. I am a burden on others and do not like many things about myself. Regarding "otherness" and such, when you are down, it is sometimes all you can do to focus on your own well being. I suppose I am trying to figure out not who I am exactly (though sort of), but more, what who I am is going to mean for my life, and others around it. I don't like myself because I have been left my whole life. I tried killing myself a while ago, and that made things even worse because death didn't even want me. I make a lot of mistakes that sometimes put others at risk. My stupidity is a big factor in this as well. The reason I do not particularly enjoy group activities is because I usually hold others back from receiving a good grade. I'm not much good at anything I do. Most of the projects I start end in complete and utter failure. I don't think before I act a lot of the time, which results in bigger problems than which I started with. I can never measure up to my parents expectations, I'm just not as good as they were when they were younger. Based on the writing above, I believe my self deprecation is reasonably justified. But who knows I could be wrong. I apologize if I came off as whiney and dramatic, I kind of am. I really don't know why I'm like this, I just don't like myself. Honestly, I am not surprised that I have a low Vitality Drive because I, myself, am aware of it. I guess you can say that it is one of those : "I choose to ignore it" things. I want to have identity, but I just don't know what my identity is because I feel the need to not create conflict with the person I am with - regardless of family members. Creating conflict with others puts me in a bad position and I don't like that. I'd rather have people like me than dislike me. So if that means I am not true to myself around others, it is all right with me. I don't like who I am, because I have no confidence in myself, never trust my decisions, opinions, instincts and most importantly, don't have the courage to express myself, and my passions and interests. I seek approval from others, not from myself, and I often expect similar attributes from others - or I put myself down, hoping others will show ways to prove me wrong, when often they take my word for it. And I doubt other people's words, hoping they will doubt mine too, but it is not doing me any good! I have set certain ideals and goals for who I want to be. I have reinvented myself many times to fit in or to come closer to being te person I want to be. When I was about ten years old I got frozen out by my previous friends for no reason. Changed school and friends a lot. I have developed bulimia and have been in diets on and off since I was ten. My dad often had panic attacks when I was very little so my mom gave him more attention than me. My sister was really mean to me in different ways. My dad favorite was my younger brother and treats him much better than me and my sister (but he doesn't admit this to us). I've been cheated on and taken advantaged of by boyfriends. I often present myself as tough and hard to other people and they treat me poorly thereafter. I dont believe I was ever taught how to love, so I try to control things. I have low self esteem at the same time but try not to show it. Peaople think I am very strong. I agree with the results except for the substance abuse I take meds for panic attacks. I don't drink or club but everyone depends on me. I don't know how to say no for fear I'll be talked about to everyone and I guess to a certain point I feel the need to be accepted by my mother & father. Without realizing it they always compare me to my brother & sister & no matter what I do for them I just don't line up & now I don't even know my place in life. I am just learning that I have personality disorders high among Schizoid, Paranoid, Avoidant and Obsessive. I am struggling in work and personal life because of what is going on with me. I know for certain that I am not like "normal" people and I despise myself for being the way that I am. If I have a poor sense of identity, then how would I know why I do? I have never been able to place exactly who I am. Other people know me better than I even know myself. I have always been indecisive and I have had trouble for some time deciding what career path I should take. I have major clinical depression and so am feeling rather low and hopeless right now. Also, I grew up in a family where I was belittled, so I didn't learn to enjoy being myself. I think I have a fairly good sense of myself now, but I am feeling unfulfilled and so don't enjoy being myself. Also, I have a lot of self-hatred. I am in an unhappy miserable relationship and only here due to a poor financial situation and children. My world has been turned upside down and I'm on my own for the first time. I'm still finding out who I am rather than who I was in my old and rather predictable surroundings. The struggle I have with my life is not knowing who I am or what I should be doing (life's purpose). I tend to drift or get pushed around by circumstance rather than take control even though I want to be in control and give my life meaning and direction. My main motivators are my children and their up bringing - from a nurture perspective neither of them seem to have any direction in life as well. I'm fresh out of a divorce. Was in the relationship for 19 years, married 4, now 37 years old. I have no children. Parents have passed. Little to no relationship with my sister. The world is open and I feel that I can be anyone I want to be and need to find who that is. I am a bit torn about who I am; while I like to "think outside the box" and derive great pleasure from theorizing on the paranormal and aliens, I also find myself afraid I may be a nut. I enjoy making myself up and being looked at, and fear becoming a narcissist, and eventually scaring my young son with my self-absorption. I believe I scored low on the Vitality drive because I have had conflicting views of what I should or should not be thrusted upon me by my family, my friends, and to an extent myself. I don't know how to make myself so that everyone will be happy, so I feel like I am constantly suspended between all these different expectations. I live in this country as an illegal and I believe that is one of the reason why I live unhappily. Many times I have to hide a side of me just to feel not judged and to avoid conflict. Another reason might be the fact that my legal status binds me to an unstable ground where I know law can take away everything away disregarding my emotional state and the family and friends I have build. Living a double life as a gay man might also have part in the results from this test and me being unhappy with myself. I have scored low on this as I have serious manic depression and take medication, some times I go between being happy with who I am and doing what I want and other times not knowing who I am, what I want or even what I like. |
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*for a low score assume the opposite of the above. the descriptions listed here are made up of personality items. people who scored high on this type scored higher on the above items compared to the average. (more info on construction) |