How Others See Me: A Free Personality Test with Friends
Compare how you see yourself with how your friends see you. The free How Others See Me / MOTIVES tool keeps your own scores alongside combined impressions from people you invite.
How do your friends describe your personality?
- Answer the 21-question MOTIVES self-test to create your own profile.
- Send your friend-rating invitation link to people who know you.
- When at least three people respond, view their combined ratings alongside your own. Results update after every two additional responses.
EXAMPLE RESULTS
Your MOTIVES profile
Based on 5 sample responses. See your self-ratings alongside friends’ combined impressions.
| Trait | Your score | Friends’ average | How much friends agree with each other | How much friends agree with you |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| MaterialisticStatus & recognition | Your score 28% | Friends’ average 67% | Friends agree with each otherHigh agreement | Friends agree with youMedium-low agreement |
| OffbeatExperimenting & novelty | Your score 83% | Friends’ average 81% | Friends agree with each otherHigh agreement | Friends agree with youHigh agreement |
| ThinkingPlanning & structure | Your score 78% | Friends’ average 56% | Friends agree with each otherHigh agreement | Friends agree with youMedium agreement |
| InterpersonalService & consideration | Your score 50% | Friends’ average 50% | Friends agree with each otherMedium-high agreement | Friends agree with youHigh agreement |
| VitalityOptimism & self-comfort | Your score 67% | Friends’ average 56% | Friends agree with each otherMedium-high agreement | Friends agree with youMedium-high agreement |
| EasygoingRelaxation & easy pace | Your score 44% | Friends’ average 55% | Friends agree with each otherMedium agreement | Friends agree with youMedium-high agreement |
| SectarianNational loyalty & boundaries | Your score 22% | Friends’ average 22% | Friends agree with each otherHigh agreement | Friends agree with youHigh agreement |
Notice the difference: these friends agree about Materialistic, but their average is higher than the self-rating. On Offbeat, their average and the self-rating are close.
With each other describes how similar the friends’ ratings are. With you describes how close their average is to your score.
Fictional names and scores for illustration. No personal results are shown.
Agreement is not the same as accuracy
A group of friends can agree with one another and still see you differently from how you see yourself. Conversely, their average can be close to yours while individual impressions differ. The two agreement displays help separate those patterns.
Friends know you in particular settings and relationships. A difference can prompt a useful conversation about which behavior each person is seeing. It does not establish who is right or give a clinical assessment.
What the seven MOTIVES scores describe
Materialistic, Offbeat, Thinking, Interpersonal, Vitality, Easygoing and Sectarian describe seven paired orientations, with high and low descriptions. Read the MOTIVES system guide for the underlying concepts and research.
Can I see each friend’s answers?
Individual answers are never displayed. The profile shows combined ratings once the response threshold is reached. Keep your private profile link separate from your friend invitation link.
Will creating a profile make my results public?
No. Results are private by default. Public-profile settings and sharing particular results with a group are separate choices you control.
Is this the same as a compatibility test?
No. This compares your self-image with impressions of you. Distinct Traits compatibility compares two people’s own trait profiles. A group dashboard is another way to explore results people choose to share.
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