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MOTIV Personality Trait Descriptions
Vital (Identity)
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I scored highly on Identity drive. This is because I specifically worked to know who I am, to change what I perceived to be either flaws that negatively affected my life or created workarounds, and maximized the good points and natural abilities -- with visible positive result. Self-knowledge and transformation is difficult to obtain without much pain and effort, not to mention many hit-or-miss attempts as well as successes. I am therefore very aware of the cost and therefore value of this journey that is my life. There is much to change and improve still, and life will deal many blows as well as give many more gifts. Self-knowledge gives me the confidence that I have the inner resources to deal with whatever may come, that I can acquire the necessary resources and create the opportunities to carry me through. FWIW, I am not religious or New Age mystical; perhaps more zen in a philosophical sense. My background is in psychology and law. Childhood trauma (not particularly traumatic if compared on the bell curve, but deeply affecting to me) caused me to feel very alienated from "normal" people for well into my twenties, and I have spent much time and brain power to try to understand "them", to "fit in" ... until one realizes that we are all on the same journey, face the same uncertainties and self-doubts, and seek each in our own way to be happy and fulfilled. Once I understood this, there is very little to fear on a day-to-day basis, and certainly no need to hide my true self so long as I always treat others with respect and good manners. In my attempts to "fit in", I have acquired excellent social skills, ability to read people, and create rapport. I am intelligent, educated, well-read, well-spoken, attractive and well-dressed, and generally emotionally stable so that I can support others in their times of need. I must emphasize my belief that these are all SKILLS, obtainable by everyone so long as they see the need. I am also realistically optimistic and able to see humor in everything. I like who I am very much. I am very comfortable with who I am. It took me many years to get to this point. I noticed I scored high in the dynamism also. I very much live for change. Even my career choice is because every day is different. Having a good sense of who am I makes me feel happy because I know that others acknowledge, accept and love for who I am, maybe because when I am dealing with others I really wants them to be happy by making feel that they can trust and depend on me, they can tell anything they wish to talk and make them feel secure in me, and that makes me happy to protect someone that I care, value and love. I feel like I've come to understand who I am, and what makes me happy. The test was right, as I'd like to believe, and I think that it's because I do what I enjoy, which overall makes for a happier person. I think i value myself because I only have one life. The most important thing is to be myself, I can care less if others approve/disprove of me. Do things that make me happy ( as long as it doesn't hurt others). Only I can decide where I go in life, and I absolutely love that decision. I grew up with parents that gave my siblings (8 total) and myself permission and space to express our individuality, they also taught us self respect and the importance of being good to one another and not judging. Early in life I always hated myself. I am constantly improving myself and finding out why I do what I do. If it is bad, I change it. If it is inevitable, I cope with it. If it is good, I improve it. I like who i am and am proud of who i am. I think there are various reasons as to why I'm comfortable with my identity. My parents were a huge part of that, my father is a self-absorbed idiot and my mother was a naive saint who spent seventeen years trying to change him... and together, in a really messed up sort of way, they produced my confidence. I spent years watching them be unhappy and decided that's not what I wanted. I've spent about four years getting to know myself, the things I can't change, the ones that I can, and then I decided what I wanted in life and what I needed to do to get there. I set goals and then I worked for them. That's really the only way to explain how I got here. It is true that knowing who I am makes me happy and that I am happy with myself (100% according to this test). You are the most important part of your life so it's worth exploring your persona. To try to answer why it is this makes me happy I must say that I accept who I am, I treat myself with love, though not in a narcissistic manner. But it wasn't always this way and it has been a journey. Also, it is very important that we realize that we may never fully know who we are because we live in our own heads and not in everyone elses so, there isn't a clear rounded up picture of who it is we are. So don't try too hard either. I wake up each morning grateful that I'm here and I go on with life knowing there really isn't much at all I can understand, textbook knowledge aside. But I am proud of myself for having comprehended this much for now. I enjoy the person that I am because I love the life I live. I have learned a lot in my past to make me the person I am today, and I am in love with the love of my life and wouldn't rather be anywhere else in my life. I feel like it is going down the right path and I wouldn't change a thing. I am adopted, and have grown up with parents who have raised me to believe that I can be anything I want to be. I realized when I was young that power is an idea, and can be molded out of thin air from the likes of confidence, self motivated drive, and passionate curiosity. My personality is distinct and whole because I consciously evolve every minute of every day into the person I choose to be, the person who results from the mass of my actions. I love being who I am because who I am makes me happy, the ones who love me happy, and the ones I'm attracted to attracted to me. I enjoy being who I am, being the example of what a person can be should they simple exist to be happy with themselves and create their bodies, their environments, and their minds to be exactly as they see themselves as being. I'm happy and enjoy being who I am because it helps me figure out the things I want to do in life and gives me direction in life. I am almost never bored because I always know what I want or have to do. It also helps me identify how I can make a change in the world. I am terrified of the idea of not knowing who I am and simply following society's standards, because from what I see in other people, it leads to things they regret in the future. I think it's because I've mostly had positive experiences reinforcing a sense of self in terms of identity definition. In my case it's successes in life in general that reinforce the opinion of myself as someone who is really able to adapt to the environment for survival, meaning I have a generally positive opinion of myself because my experiences reinforce that (also some empiricism here?). Also, I had a very supporting family when I was a kid even though the environment outside family may not have always been favorable for me. I think that such a stable emotional background also helps. let me also add that if the above seemed overly positive, I don't mean I'm perfect or anything but that's fine, nobody ever forced me to try and be perfect. I am consciously positive, I look for the blessing in any situation, and work on introspection and self improvement. This makes life better, and makes me enjoy who I am more. I believe at this point in my life the self realization is fixed. And the significant others' influence has somewhat been replaced with a my own personal barometer; I am now my own validation as I continue to achieve my personal ambitions. Furthermore, I believe that the positive reinforcement poured into to me as a youth was critical to my identity development. I equate it to the learning window that children have to learn foreign languages and other things; the early exposure and consistency usually allows for that child to grasp those things and take it with them throughout life. So because I had the benefit of consistent early positive reinforcement, when it became less frequent in my life, I was still able to move forward even when significant others or their influence weren't around. I think a good sense of self is hard to come by and usually the result of struggle in life. In answer to your question I suppose I am this way because I learned to be this way. I am 42 and have decided I would rather be happy with who I am than fight with myself to be someone else. In other words "what's the fuss". Are there some things I would like to do better? Sure. I am working on improving my general mental and physical health but I am not getting too worked up about it. Life will work out one way or another. I enjoy who I am and have a good sense of who I am, maybe because I experienced a lot of strong emotional situations in my life, helping me to have a better understanding of myself , and enjoying simply life as it is. And as I simply enjoy life, I also simply enjoy or I should say accept, who I am, with my strengths and weakness, with my qualities and flaws. I think scoring highly on the Vitality drive portion of this test, is a reflection of many years of varying degrees of emoting. I grew up as a preacher's daughter in a very small farming community which left little room for questioning who I am or what I want. Subsequently, when I left for college I went off the deep end with no boundaries strictly enforced. I married young and had 2 children by the time I was 27. Divorced ten years later. I have explored so many different highs and lows, and ultimately at 44, feel completely settled in my skin. The only thing I would work on is my weight (for health issues alone, as I have not felt being overweight as a 'negative' impact in my life) and continuing to learn and evolve my mind and heart. I have stopped being angry and I have stopped judging others. I have learned that being intolerant of intolerance is hypocritical. So I work on myself, my space, and my relationships. and I am happier than I have ever been. Mostly, I try not to stress about the things that I can't change and worry more about the things that I can't. I like to be a human tree - take negativity in like carbon dioxide and push positivity out like oxygen. You have to wake up and think or say one good thing about yourself every day. My parents always stressed the fact that I should be comfortable with who I am, and if that was not the case that I have full power over myself and anything I don't like about myself. Being a good person was always greatly stressed, and because of their support, I have become the person I am today. Self reflection is a big part of their lives, especially for my father, and embracing change and striving to be the best person you can be was his goal, not necessarily physically but morally and being a good person in general. I do this as well, and try to consider how I affect other people and how I can try to be a better person. We are here, and should try to make the best of it. Every experience is a learning opportunity, and I will be happy with where I am and who I am, or I will make a change. |
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